Love

This is more of a musing, than anything, but I’m thinking of it, and want to share, with someone. 

 

Something I’ve done, as long as I can recall is say I love you, I was raised with the notion of, I love you no matter what, I might not like you or what you are doing, but I do love you. I realize, this is not how everyone was raised, but it is a concept that keeps families together, and makes for happier homes. It wasn’t my own situation that brought these thoughts about, I have always made a habit with my kids to tell them I love them, same with my husband, I just do, and my kids say it back, they know no matter what, that they are loved.

My best friend in the world, also a mom of three who has trouble, as her husband doesn’t believe he deserves to be loved, we were both raised with unconditional love, but he wasn’t his mom only showed her love, if he did stuff for her, he didn’t have that relationship like we did. This is toxic, as the child receiving only conditional love doesn’t gain the sense of self worth as a child who receives unconditional love. So my best friend’s husband doesn’t understand how she can love him despite the fact that they live pay check to pay check, as he clearly doesn’t make enough to make ends meet properly. He also doesn’t understand about showing her love, despite the fact she isn’t the kind of house keeper he would like her to be, and their children act out, in part, because they see these conflicting types of love, though they are much more balanced than children only receiving conditional love.  

I will soon be urging my friend to try an experiment, which I am sure will take much time and patience, on her part, I am going to tell her to express her love to him in the same way that she shows the kids, no strings attached saying “I Love You” in every situation where she would tell her kids, such as, when he leaves, when he comes home, and at bed time. One problem with this will be, at first he won’t believe her, and he is in the habit of telling her that, in such a way that it hurts her, so she will have to start this by telling him that he has to stop that behavior.

I suspect that when she starts, his internal dialogue of ‘how can you love me’ and ‘no you don’t’ will continue for some time, but as he hears her love over and over, he will begin to believe it, It will not be an easy thing for either of them, for her to continue despite his poor attitude about the practice or for him to silence that voice telling him he’s not good enough, but in the end, if she is able to, with persistence tell him over and over (as appropriate) that she loves him, no matter what, he will eventually believe her, and learn to accept unconditional love. 

Racerback Top Released

So much has happened since I released Oma’s bonnet pattern, and I haven’t even posted once, soon I will, I hope. But first, who remembers the top I was working on?

Well I’ve finally released the pattern, I remember making a promise way back when to give my readers a coupon code to get it free, for a week, so follow this link. Free until Sept 19/2012

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The code is knittingmomma, the link is supposed to put it in for you, but just in case.

Socks, Socks everywhere

Since Wednesday I’ve started another socks, and have plans for a third pair. How did this come about you ask? Why it’s simple my friends, the testing pool on Ravelry, first I found a test knit, with a deadline two months out, no problem, I think, two months is lots of time, sign me up. I keep browsing the boards, while I wait for the pattern, and I come across a call for sample knitters, I jump on it, of course.

I’ve never actually been accepted for one of these open sample calls, but I got an email right away, and already have the pattern printed, I’m just waiting for the yarn now.

I am however considering, making my toe up socks into mittens, what do you think?

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WIP Wednesday

I have so many WIP’s going on right now, 4 active projects.
The oldest one is a Lola Bunny for baby girl, it’s over a year old, all it needs is an ear and a bum, lol.

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Much more recent, I have my first cardigan, which was a test knit, I was able to give her my feedback in time, but didn’t get the sleeves knit, so it sits on top, glaring at me, I currently have 2″ left on the one sleeve, then a second one to knit.

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And this week, I cast on two new projects, the first was a shawl for my mom.

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And right after I started that, my yarn order came, a beautiful ball of self striping sock yarn, and two lbs of fingering weight wool, one in blue and the other in brown.
The last project I currently have going is a pair of toe up socks, in my self striping yarn.

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And of course all together.

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Does anyone have any ideas what I could do with my 2 lbs of fingering weight yarn? It was a halfway impulse buy, one of my groups on Ravelry is considering a KAL for a large shawl this fall, but otherwise I’m open to any and all ideas.

Open For Testing

My racerback top is finally ready for testers, I am just about done testing my Oma’s bonnet pattern (which needed a complete rewrite) so have decided to go ahead and put this one out there.
This is the pattern that I have been talking about designing almost my entire time on this blog.

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If you have a Ravelry account, you can find my tester call here: Call to Test
If you do not have a Ravelry account, and knit or crochet, why not? It is an awesome site, just saying.

Till next time.

What a difference a few days can make.

Wow, my husband took the boys out yesterday, and they spent today at a friend’s house, and while they were gone, I cleaned. I just had baby girl, so had a lot of time to clean up. I should have taken before pictures of the playroom, I pulled out a kitchen trash bag worth of garbage, and piled the toys up, and having little guy make his bed, made a huge difference too.

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There is still lots to do, like my clutter catcher desk.

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I’ve made good progress on my sweater too, not all in the last two days, but I want to share, and I’ll have time to work on it, after supper. Here is baby girl trying it on, a week or so ago,

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And here it is today, I have a few rows left on the button band, and the sleeves to do.

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